6 Feel good tips for when overwhelmed with Fibromyalgia - Learning to love yourself again V.2

We should never criticise ourselves or fellow fibro sisters for feeling overwhelmed with Fibromyalgia. It is a bloody tough illness to cope with!

No matter what chapter you are at with Fibro from the initial unwell, getting a diagnosis, a fibro flare or years of living with Fibromyalgia it still can feel overwhelming at times, and that is ok.

If you witnessed a small child feeling overwhelmed you hopefully would offer love and understanding yet to yourself you expect different.

“Picture yourself when you were five. in fact, dig out a photo of little you at that time and tape it to your mirror. How would you treat her, love her, feed her? How would you nurture her if you were the mother of little you? I bet you would protect her fiercely while giving her space to spread her itty-bitty wings. she’d get naps, healthy food, imagination time, and adventures into the wild. If the playground bullies hurt her feelings, you’d hug her tears away and give her perspective. When tantrums or meltdowns turned her into a poltergeist, you’d demand a loving time-out in the naughty chair. From this day forward I want you to extend that same compassion to your adult self.” Kris Carr

Give yourself a few moments to think of all the beautiful way you would cherish and protect the little girl age 5. Many of us forget that little girl is still within the person they wake up and bully all day with hateful words and negative thoughts. Every woman needs to be a little nicer to herself, love herself a little more.

Here are the 6 methods I use as a coping mechanism when I feel overwhelmed:

1. The small moments in my day.

Write them down, the small moments when you smile. A nice cup of tea, watching a little bird in your garden, the first bite of a crispy roast potato, your child smiling at you, a text from a friend.

It is difficult to think, "my day has been rubbish" when you have a list of all the beautiful moments that you often forget.

2. The people who make me happy.

We all should be aware of the people who raise our spirits. This can be a family member, a friend, a friend you have never met on facebook yet feel so close to, a good page on Facebook. These are your tribe and you need to have a list of them for times when you are feeling overwhelmed so you can bring them closer.

3. My happy music.

Music is a therapy. It has magical powers to lift moods so use it well. Have a page in a notebook to list your feel-good music so you can return to that list when you are feeling overwhelmed.

4. My happy YouTube videos.

Make a list of YouTube videos that make you feel happy.

My happy videos are usually TED Talks (influential videos from expert speakers), Tony Robbins (American life coach) or Uplift connect are all on my list.

5. Things that make me feel better.

We all should make a non-negotiable happiness list. It is a list that instead of making you feel like a failure, will make you feel like your very own hero. 

Here is my list of non-negotiable practices:
  • I will buy fresh flowers weekly. 
  • I will always find time to have painted nails.
  • I will always try and look my best even on bad days.
  • I will listen to my body and rest guilt-free.
  • I will not pursue anything that does not come naturally to me. 
  • I will always try to remove all negative thoughts, people and practices from my life.
  • I will be thankful for the present moment and enjoy now. 
  • I will find reasons to smile daily regardless of it being a good or bad day health wise. 
  • I will never fall asleep on a crossword with anyone I love.
  • I will never let my past, pain or people make me hard.
  • I will always compliment, praise, make people aware of their qualities and strengths. 

6. Re-reading my acceptance of sadness. 

Write yourself a note to read when you are feeling low.

I wrote a small reminder in the notes section of my diary, a letter to low mood me from happy me.

Dear Me when I am sad, 

Blah de blah....

Love Happy Me xx

Just scribbled words to remind myself that negative thoughts are normal, it is not depression returning. They are part of life and every single person no matter how happy you are will have them. I reminded myself it will pass, I have been through more and survived, how special I am so to ignore the lies my sad mind tells me, it really does work.

Give yourself a little extra hug, we should never need reminding to be kinder to ourselves, yet we do so very often.

This blog is part of a series you will find the previous blogs in this series here:
Learning to love yourself again V.1

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Love and gentle hugs

Ness xx

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