Tips to help you to be own version of Fibromyalgia Beautiful.

We are all very different as women with Fibromyalgia, but one thing we have in common is that none of us are perfect. Many things make us who we are as women and each of us has something to offer and each of us is entitled to be happy and feel truly beautiful.

I will never be the old version of who I was as a woman. 
I will never shimmy on the dancefloor in my high heels. 
But that is ok, I am beautiful.

Admittedly some days I can look at myself and know Fibromyalgia stole some of my beauty but I always think of a quote I read that is now ingrained in my mind,

"The moon knows that it need not shine as bright as the sun to be beautiful."

Kurt Cobain once said, "Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." He is so true but for us, it is different as we do not want to be someone else, we crave the person we once were.

So how do we overcome this when diagnosed with Fibromyalgia?

Self-acceptance is the key to overcoming self-esteem and body issues. Fibromyalgia acceptance is the key to self-acceptance.  I wrote a blog three years ago about ACCEPTING MY LIFE WITH FIBROMYALGIA it was written during my coming out of the chronic illness closet phase.

"To shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are." Roy T. Bennett

Here are some tips to help you along with self-acceptance and to help you become your own version of beautiful: 

  • Talk it out 
  • Whatever your worry or negative thought, there is always something you can do to make yourself feel better. Talking to someone (family, a friend, a health professional) will help you see things clearer and get a different perspective on a problem.
  • Find the good things
  • There is beauty in everyone. Think about the things you like about yourself and the things you have done that make you feel good.
  • Focus on the positive
  • Try to concentrate on positive things about yourself, this will help build your self-confidence and self-appreciation.
  • Keep a gratitude journal
  • List 5 things you feel grateful for each day.
  • Do good deeds
  • Helping someone else will make you feel good too. Try doing three nice things a day for others.
  • Enjoy the journey
  • Make sure you have fun and do things you enjoy. This will make you feel happier and more positive about yourself.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself
  • If you make a mistake or things don’t go as you hoped, try to be kind to yourself. Instead of criticising yourself, think about what happened and what you might do differently in the future.

Start and end your day with affirmations 

  • “I accept myself” 
  • “I approve of myself”
  • "I am my own version of beautiful"

The goal of this blog is to help increase the frequency of self-accepting days and reduce the down days. Apologies if you thought I was going to share makeup tips. Beauty radiates from within. There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who accepts herself for who she is and smiles with confidence. Our smiles combined add to a beautiful mosaic called womanhood

Huge smile ladies and repeat after me.... "I accept myself. I love myself. I forgive myself for what I didn’t know until I learned it." 

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Do you have any tips? Share them in the comments section.

Love and gentle hugs

Ness xx


  1. Great advice. Keeping a good attitude makes all the difference.

  2. This is good advice. I recently learned to accept my illnesses as part of the package that is me. I, like you, have learned that they are not going away, and have learned to redefine what makes me "chronically ill beautiful."

  3. Love those shoes, Ness! I have shared this link on my PainPalsBlog regular feature Monday Magic - Inspiring Blogs for You! Claire x


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