Reminding health professionals we are not all the same.

Just had one of them irritating phone calls that make you really feel like a good rant down the phone. I tried to explain but could see I was getting nowhere so gave up...

Had a cup of tea and thought, No! Ness does not simply give up so I wrote a letter to the manager so someone else with a chronic illness that fluctuates from day to day should not be blighted with the same high pitch sickly sweet sassiness. Humans are not all the same so one approach for all can sod right off.

It all started when I woke this morning and felt like I had been in a fight with two men with bats then finished off by a bus. It happens, all part of life with Fibromyalgia and I am used to it now. So rang the dentist one minute after they open and explained my dilemma so I would be unable to attend my appointment at 4 pm. No way, not even with Speedy would I have the energy and pain relief to get there. The receptionist became all condescending sassy and caught me in the wrong decade of life. Pre fibro I would have entered into a verbal joust of sass, sarcasm, and razor sharp fast response but I really can't be bothered now.

Society really does need to be a little more flexible and sometimes you do need to remind some organisations that they really do need to make exceptions. We are not all the same, we have very different needs and one approach does not suit all so being told I have a mark against my name on the computer for cancelling at short notice due to an illness outside of my control is not acceptable. I can not look at a calendar and determine when I am healthy, if they had sort notice appointments so I could attend during a "good" period it would be easier to manage with a chronic illness.

Equality is about ensuring that every individual has an equal opportunity to make the most of their lives and talents, and believing that no one should have poorer life chances because of where
what or whom they were born, what they believe, or whether they have a disability. Equality recognises that historically, certain groups of people with particular characteristics e.g. race, disability, sex and sexuality, have experienced discrimination.

I fully understand a surgery has to run smoothly and efficiently, my doctor's surgery does this brilliantly and it fits around my needs as a woman with a chronic pain condition so why can't a dentist have the same approach? 

Do you struggle with appointments as your health fluctuates? 
Post your story in the comment section. 

If possible, please always take time out to remind some health professionals that we are not all the same. 

"The pen is mightier than the sword" a quote by English author Edward Bulwer-Lytton in 1839, indicating that communication (particularly written language), or in some interpretations, administrative power or advocacy of an independent press, is a more effective tool than direct violence or anger.

 Love and gentle hugs to you all


  1. First, apologies if I've posted this twice, I'm new to posting!
    The above post struck a chord with me - prior to Fibro I would always stand up for myself (polite but firm!) but in the last 10 years I have tried to 'let it go' and not let the ignorance of others get in my head and cause upset and stress, which would predictably cause more pain... but is this the right path to take?
    I need to find the 'middle ground', to try to create awareness where needed, of the struggles people with a chronic illness go through daily, but try to not get stressed out at the same time!


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